Give foreplay to men.

Yet men’s need for tender touch for women is something I’ve been acutely aware of ever since starting to give tantric therapy to men. Over the years I held men in their tenderness and vulnerability, often hearing “I’ve never told this to anyone before...” and saw how men transformed from receiving tender touch. We women complain about men’s aggression and roughness, yet this is male nature. It’s us who holds the domain of tenderness, sensuality, orgasm amd pleasure and it’s we who must initiate them. While complaining may be self gratifying, it’s futile. To get what you want in bed as a heterosexual woman you must understand the nature of men. Understand their fears and anxiety, how hard they try to repress their emotions, how much pressure they are under to perform. How frustrated they are when they finally get to having sex and that what they need isn’t a limp woman lying back and taking it, what he needs is a woman to take control of his sexual energy and guide him. The male experience of sexual energy is rough, and shallow. It’s we who can introduce him to the realms of tantric bliss that comes with deep slow sex. We, women, are the gatekeepers. Just as our wombs usher in new spirit ls to the physical dimension, our pussys also can usher in our male partners to the ethereal realms, if we let our natural sexual energy, the energy of tigress, to take over. Women can bring her man to her level and introduce him to profound levels of love making. ~The Art of the Bed Chamber