Devotion touches the other deep in their soul. He feels accepted. He knows that he will never experience something so deep and pure again in his life. Dedication is the game changer.
It is only through devotion that this incomparable unity between two people is born. She is the most wonderful thing lovers can experience. Commitment is the greatest treasure you can bring in, the essence from which the relationship can draw all its strength.
Precisely, two people can become a couple only through devotion. If there's no commitment, they stay unfaithful.
But if devotion is repeatedly disappointed or hurt or rejected, the ability to commit is lost more and more over time.
Then it becomes incredibly difficult to gain trust again and fall in love with the same intensity and confess to another person. You're afraid of getting hurt again and you don't want to fall that low again.
So one will no longer really get involved but protect oneself, only build alleged closeness, rather pretend than connect to the deepest depths with a partner.
So, deep inside, there is always something separating.
As a child, you were capable of total devotion. This was your natural state of being. But how many times has this dedication been hurt or disappointed? And what was it like later, with your first love? And the following relationships, which have failed so painfully every time?
If there were hurt over and over again in your life, then the true sense of devotion will eventually have diminished more and more and will eventually disappear completely.
From a certain point in time, we have completely forgotten the feeling of how it once was originally. We will already consider the apparent proximity to be real depth and believe that this pretend is already the greatest commitment capacity.
That's where we are now, in a time where everyone is pretending.
There is nothing so forgotten like dedication. She's even more smiled at than sought. Many even fear that self-reliance will be lost through dedication. But which one?!?!
Never before have there been so many confused wandering people, just not to miss a consumption kick in the panic search. Being independent definitely feels different!
Smiling with devotion is therefore just another indication of how easily sexuality and partnership are handled. Sexuality is only a fun pastime, the number one factor in fun. One partner today, another tomorrow. What I can't get here, I'll get somewhere else. If the new one has worn out, I'll put it back on the shelf.
However, we only forget that we too are constantly put back on the shelf. Taken once again in the meantime - but now unfortunately already used a little and with small dents - so back on the shelf.
The more we are put back, the more consumed we are, the emptier the package becomes. From what we really had to give, many have already been nauseated. So we will have to pay more attention to our packaging.
We all know those mogel packs. Colorful and promising on the outside, lots of air and little content inside.
So what have we gained from the modern "alleged" attitude? Sexual Experience.
And what good is it for us? Technical skills are learnable, the persons are easily interchangeable.
So let's ask ourselves what we lost.
The ability to give deep love. And the ability to embrace love deeply. But most of all, the ability to commit.
So if there were several partners in our lives or, what has become particularly fashionable today, there are even multiple partners at the same time, our ability to commit will be completely lost at some point, somewhere. It could actually be aimed at anyone, so has become interchangeable and necessarily no longer has any real depth.
Love is not replaceable though. As little as dedication. So maybe what we don't feel is love. But just a need. Then only our needs will have to be met.
But we don't need a partner for that, we only need suppliers. The suppliers for this are interchangeable indeed. You don't have to give in to them either, you just have to pretend. However, what we will never get from our suppliers is deep love and closeness.
That's not the job of suppliers either.
Just take things for what they are, even if the memory hurts. Your devotion, which you originally possessed, was once so deeply hurt that you withdrew it out of pure self-preservation. And because you don't want to feel that pain anymore, you exchange consumption with love and make your partner some random supplier. But this way you'll never know the closeness you wanted.
Commitment is not replaceable.
However, as long as you keep believing you only need to exchange your partner, then everything will be fine, you still think consumption is the answer to your problems. At least there is still this overcrowded shelf, which seems to offer you new goods again and again. At some point someone has to be there, you hope. But no one is there.
You can only feel deep love when you surrender again. When you allow that deep emotionality and vulnerability again. Deep love excludes interchangeability.
So you have to decide what you want. Deep love or full shelf with oversupply. With the shelf, you're definitely in trend.
Deep love, however, is inseparable with devotion. Total Dedication ! I put my life in your hands, exclusively, irrefundable. Without ifs and buts. Completely. With skin and hair, with every cell of my body and mind. More so, with all my soul. Commitment is a love that demands nothing because it knows that everything is right.
She's not a trade, I don't want to get anything for my love. I have to take the risk that nothing will be left of me should things really go wrong.
But one thing's for sure: if we hold back, things will definitely go wrong.
And don't be illusions, devotion makes you vulnerable. Very vulnerable. It hurts when the other person rejects you, it hurts when you hurt him, it even hurts you when he hurts himself and it pushes you to the groundless when he walks away from you.
Then why would you dare anyway?
Because only by your devotion can you get His devotion. And only when two people commit to each other do they make a covenant for life.
With out commitment no trust,
without trust no closeness,
without proximity no connection,
without attachment no love.
Pierre Franckh
(Artwork: Hari Lualhati)
Precisely, two people can become a couple only through devotion. If there's no commitment, they stay unfaithful.
But if devotion is repeatedly disappointed or hurt or rejected, the ability to commit is lost more and more over time.
Then it becomes incredibly difficult to gain trust again and fall in love with the same intensity and confess to another person. You're afraid of getting hurt again and you don't want to fall that low again.
So one will no longer really get involved but protect oneself, only build alleged closeness, rather pretend than connect to the deepest depths with a partner.
So, deep inside, there is always something separating.
As a child, you were capable of total devotion. This was your natural state of being. But how many times has this dedication been hurt or disappointed? And what was it like later, with your first love? And the following relationships, which have failed so painfully every time?
If there were hurt over and over again in your life, then the true sense of devotion will eventually have diminished more and more and will eventually disappear completely.
From a certain point in time, we have completely forgotten the feeling of how it once was originally. We will already consider the apparent proximity to be real depth and believe that this pretend is already the greatest commitment capacity.
That's where we are now, in a time where everyone is pretending.
There is nothing so forgotten like dedication. She's even more smiled at than sought. Many even fear that self-reliance will be lost through dedication. But which one?!?!
Never before have there been so many confused wandering people, just not to miss a consumption kick in the panic search. Being independent definitely feels different!
Smiling with devotion is therefore just another indication of how easily sexuality and partnership are handled. Sexuality is only a fun pastime, the number one factor in fun. One partner today, another tomorrow. What I can't get here, I'll get somewhere else. If the new one has worn out, I'll put it back on the shelf.
However, we only forget that we too are constantly put back on the shelf. Taken once again in the meantime - but now unfortunately already used a little and with small dents - so back on the shelf.
The more we are put back, the more consumed we are, the emptier the package becomes. From what we really had to give, many have already been nauseated. So we will have to pay more attention to our packaging.
We all know those mogel packs. Colorful and promising on the outside, lots of air and little content inside.
So what have we gained from the modern "alleged" attitude? Sexual Experience.
And what good is it for us? Technical skills are learnable, the persons are easily interchangeable.
So let's ask ourselves what we lost.
The ability to give deep love. And the ability to embrace love deeply. But most of all, the ability to commit.
So if there were several partners in our lives or, what has become particularly fashionable today, there are even multiple partners at the same time, our ability to commit will be completely lost at some point, somewhere. It could actually be aimed at anyone, so has become interchangeable and necessarily no longer has any real depth.
Love is not replaceable though. As little as dedication. So maybe what we don't feel is love. But just a need. Then only our needs will have to be met.
But we don't need a partner for that, we only need suppliers. The suppliers for this are interchangeable indeed. You don't have to give in to them either, you just have to pretend. However, what we will never get from our suppliers is deep love and closeness.
That's not the job of suppliers either.
Just take things for what they are, even if the memory hurts. Your devotion, which you originally possessed, was once so deeply hurt that you withdrew it out of pure self-preservation. And because you don't want to feel that pain anymore, you exchange consumption with love and make your partner some random supplier. But this way you'll never know the closeness you wanted.
Commitment is not replaceable.
However, as long as you keep believing you only need to exchange your partner, then everything will be fine, you still think consumption is the answer to your problems. At least there is still this overcrowded shelf, which seems to offer you new goods again and again. At some point someone has to be there, you hope. But no one is there.
You can only feel deep love when you surrender again. When you allow that deep emotionality and vulnerability again. Deep love excludes interchangeability.
So you have to decide what you want. Deep love or full shelf with oversupply. With the shelf, you're definitely in trend.
Deep love, however, is inseparable with devotion. Total Dedication ! I put my life in your hands, exclusively, irrefundable. Without ifs and buts. Completely. With skin and hair, with every cell of my body and mind. More so, with all my soul. Commitment is a love that demands nothing because it knows that everything is right.
She's not a trade, I don't want to get anything for my love. I have to take the risk that nothing will be left of me should things really go wrong.
But one thing's for sure: if we hold back, things will definitely go wrong.
And don't be illusions, devotion makes you vulnerable. Very vulnerable. It hurts when the other person rejects you, it hurts when you hurt him, it even hurts you when he hurts himself and it pushes you to the groundless when he walks away from you.
Then why would you dare anyway?
Because only by your devotion can you get His devotion. And only when two people commit to each other do they make a covenant for life.
With out commitment no trust,
without trust no closeness,
without proximity no connection,
without attachment no love.
Pierre Franckh
(Artwork: Hari Lualhati)
