Sex myth
MYTH 1: Men want sex in the morning, women want it at night
For the doctor, it's a clear-cut case: "In the morning, you are well-rested and recovered; the body releases testosterone, which wakes up the libido. You also perceive body odor more intensely in the morning, which acts as an attractant." Men often experience a so-called "morning wood" between 4:00 and 7:00 AM. Women are also sexually stimulated in the morning by a full bladder, but they are often already thinking about the day's tasks. They feel they have more time and intimacy in the evening; therefore, this statement is true.
MYTH 2: Men never fake an orgasm
How could they? Wouldn't it be obvious? Until now, statistics mostly attributed faking to women who didn't want to disappoint their partners. According to a survey by the market research institute YouGov, one in three women does it repeatedly. However, a study by the University of Montreal in Canada now shows that one in four men also fakes it. "No one checks the condom afterward, and if the partner is very wet, it's hard to tell if he only performed the orgasm." As for the "why": "It can be fatigue, job frustration, and men also want to meet the expectation that 'the man must climax during sex.'"
MYTH 3: As the man's nose goes, so goes his "Johannes" (p€n!s)
A classic among sex myths. This was likely invented by men with large noses. There is no correlation. Similarly, the idea that penis length can be read from the distance between the wrist and the tip of the middle finger is nonsense. In this country, the average penis length is 14.5 centimeters, while hands are usually longer. Will we ever get this out of our heads?
MYTH 4: Women desire sex less often than men
According to studies, over a third of men think about sex every thirty seconds—while only one in ten women does. But is this proof that women have less desire for sex than men? Answering this depends heavily on age. Not only physical performance but also sexual desire varies throughout life. For men, the period of greatest physical peak coincides with their greatest sexual desire. Their sex drive rises steeply during puberty and peaks in their early 20s. It only begins to noticeably decline after their 30th birthday.
Women, on the other hand, are also at their physical peak in their early 20s—the biological prime for childbearing—but their sex drive increases much more slowly than that of young men. It is only in their early 30s that their sexual desire becomes as pronounced as that of men the same age. This is often because, by then, they have gotten to know their bodies much better and have more confidence to express their sexual desires. In the first decades of life, it may indeed be true that in similarly aged couples, the man wants sex more often. However, from age 30, sexual desire levels out. From age 40, the opposite may even occur: women at this age often have significantly more desire for sex than men of the same age. This is because the male sex drive slowly declines at this stage, while the woman continues to live out her sexual pleasure. Additionally, for women approaching forty, the desire for a child before menopause sets in often plays a role.
MYTH 5: Too much sex stretches out the v@g!na
This claim belongs squarely in the category of "tall tales"—specifically those used in earlier, more prudish times to discourage women from freely exploring their sexuality. The vagina is an elastic, muscular tube that can change its size and shape during lovemaking and fall into exciting rhythmic contractions in its forward section during orgasm.
Like all muscles, the muscle fibers of the vagina do not become flabby through regular use; they tend to get stronger. There is no cause for concern. Only with advancing age does the vagina gradually become less stretchable and its walls thinner. This has nothing to do with the number of sexual encounters, but rather with falling estrogen levels after menopause. If the size ratio between the penis and vagina is unbalanced—such that a smaller penis does not fill a wider vagina as much as both partners would like—targeted pelvic floor exercises (Kegels) can help. This involves repeatedly tightening the pelvic floor muscles as if trying to stop the flow of urine. This training is also recommended if the pelvic floor is weakened after childbirth, causing the vagina to feel wider during sex than before.
MYTH 6: A good lover can go several times in a row
Theoretically, a man needs an average of only ten minutes of rest before his "best piece" is ready for action again after an orgasm. Many sex guides—not to mention erotic novels or movies—fuel the expectation that a good lover can go several times in a row. In reality, it is mostly only young men who are "ready at any time" for a new erotic encounter. Since they are at the peak of their sexual performance, they are occasionally capable of jumping back into the game time and again. However, the emphasis is on "occasionally."
The male organism is simply not built for an endless succession of orgasms. From a biological perspective, sex primarily serves reproduction. Producing new sperm in the testicles takes time. Therefore, the number of sperm in the ejaculate and the volume of the semen itself decrease rapidly during closely successive orgasms—the shooter simply runs out of ammunition. Furthermore, sex is an extremely strenuous activity. It raises blood pressure, speeds up the pulse, tenses various muscles, and deepens breathing. In short: not just the genitals, but the whole man needs a recovery break after sex. And this break must be longer the more he exerted himself beforehand.
MYTH 7: Circumcised men last longer
In circumcised men, the glans—the most sensitive part of the penis—is no longer covered by the protective foreskin. Therefore, it loses some sensitivity over time because it is constantly in direct contact with its environment—even just with underwear. However, this "toughening up" has almost no effect on male stamina. On average, circumcised men do not last longer than their uncircumcised peers. Far more than the presence of a foreskin, individual factors such as health, training (yes, really!), the level of arousal, and not least the consumption of alcohol and other substances play a role—and these factors can change from one time to the next. While men suffering from premature ejaculation are occasionally advised to remove the foreskin to delay orgasm, the success of this measure is not guaranteed, as there are also circumcised men who suffer from premature ejaculation.
Joe Turan
* Tantra Masseur
* Sex Coach
* Cuddle Therapist
For the doctor, it's a clear-cut case: "In the morning, you are well-rested and recovered; the body releases testosterone, which wakes up the libido. You also perceive body odor more intensely in the morning, which acts as an attractant." Men often experience a so-called "morning wood" between 4:00 and 7:00 AM. Women are also sexually stimulated in the morning by a full bladder, but they are often already thinking about the day's tasks. They feel they have more time and intimacy in the evening; therefore, this statement is true.
MYTH 2: Men never fake an orgasm
How could they? Wouldn't it be obvious? Until now, statistics mostly attributed faking to women who didn't want to disappoint their partners. According to a survey by the market research institute YouGov, one in three women does it repeatedly. However, a study by the University of Montreal in Canada now shows that one in four men also fakes it. "No one checks the condom afterward, and if the partner is very wet, it's hard to tell if he only performed the orgasm." As for the "why": "It can be fatigue, job frustration, and men also want to meet the expectation that 'the man must climax during sex.'"
MYTH 3: As the man's nose goes, so goes his "Johannes" (p€n!s)
A classic among sex myths. This was likely invented by men with large noses. There is no correlation. Similarly, the idea that penis length can be read from the distance between the wrist and the tip of the middle finger is nonsense. In this country, the average penis length is 14.5 centimeters, while hands are usually longer. Will we ever get this out of our heads?
MYTH 4: Women desire sex less often than men
According to studies, over a third of men think about sex every thirty seconds—while only one in ten women does. But is this proof that women have less desire for sex than men? Answering this depends heavily on age. Not only physical performance but also sexual desire varies throughout life. For men, the period of greatest physical peak coincides with their greatest sexual desire. Their sex drive rises steeply during puberty and peaks in their early 20s. It only begins to noticeably decline after their 30th birthday.
Women, on the other hand, are also at their physical peak in their early 20s—the biological prime for childbearing—but their sex drive increases much more slowly than that of young men. It is only in their early 30s that their sexual desire becomes as pronounced as that of men the same age. This is often because, by then, they have gotten to know their bodies much better and have more confidence to express their sexual desires. In the first decades of life, it may indeed be true that in similarly aged couples, the man wants sex more often. However, from age 30, sexual desire levels out. From age 40, the opposite may even occur: women at this age often have significantly more desire for sex than men of the same age. This is because the male sex drive slowly declines at this stage, while the woman continues to live out her sexual pleasure. Additionally, for women approaching forty, the desire for a child before menopause sets in often plays a role.
MYTH 5: Too much sex stretches out the v@g!na
This claim belongs squarely in the category of "tall tales"—specifically those used in earlier, more prudish times to discourage women from freely exploring their sexuality. The vagina is an elastic, muscular tube that can change its size and shape during lovemaking and fall into exciting rhythmic contractions in its forward section during orgasm.
Like all muscles, the muscle fibers of the vagina do not become flabby through regular use; they tend to get stronger. There is no cause for concern. Only with advancing age does the vagina gradually become less stretchable and its walls thinner. This has nothing to do with the number of sexual encounters, but rather with falling estrogen levels after menopause. If the size ratio between the penis and vagina is unbalanced—such that a smaller penis does not fill a wider vagina as much as both partners would like—targeted pelvic floor exercises (Kegels) can help. This involves repeatedly tightening the pelvic floor muscles as if trying to stop the flow of urine. This training is also recommended if the pelvic floor is weakened after childbirth, causing the vagina to feel wider during sex than before.
MYTH 6: A good lover can go several times in a row
Theoretically, a man needs an average of only ten minutes of rest before his "best piece" is ready for action again after an orgasm. Many sex guides—not to mention erotic novels or movies—fuel the expectation that a good lover can go several times in a row. In reality, it is mostly only young men who are "ready at any time" for a new erotic encounter. Since they are at the peak of their sexual performance, they are occasionally capable of jumping back into the game time and again. However, the emphasis is on "occasionally."
The male organism is simply not built for an endless succession of orgasms. From a biological perspective, sex primarily serves reproduction. Producing new sperm in the testicles takes time. Therefore, the number of sperm in the ejaculate and the volume of the semen itself decrease rapidly during closely successive orgasms—the shooter simply runs out of ammunition. Furthermore, sex is an extremely strenuous activity. It raises blood pressure, speeds up the pulse, tenses various muscles, and deepens breathing. In short: not just the genitals, but the whole man needs a recovery break after sex. And this break must be longer the more he exerted himself beforehand.
MYTH 7: Circumcised men last longer
In circumcised men, the glans—the most sensitive part of the penis—is no longer covered by the protective foreskin. Therefore, it loses some sensitivity over time because it is constantly in direct contact with its environment—even just with underwear. However, this "toughening up" has almost no effect on male stamina. On average, circumcised men do not last longer than their uncircumcised peers. Far more than the presence of a foreskin, individual factors such as health, training (yes, really!), the level of arousal, and not least the consumption of alcohol and other substances play a role—and these factors can change from one time to the next. While men suffering from premature ejaculation are occasionally advised to remove the foreskin to delay orgasm, the success of this measure is not guaranteed, as there are also circumcised men who suffer from premature ejaculation.
Joe Turan
* Tantra Masseur
* Sex Coach
* Cuddle Therapist
