The erotic power of a man

"When he is the living embodiment of raw eroticism of gentleness."  Not in the sense of weakness or passivity, but of a gentleness permeated by strength. A presence that says: I could destroy, but I prefer to open myself up. An energy that knows how to hold and melt. I believe we men have been conditioned for centuries to think that the most masculine must be rough, hard, aggressive, dominant. And I believe we live today in a time when this hardness is losing its appeal. The world is tired of patriarchy. It's tired of power. Roughness tastes stale. And somehow, it's wrong. I believe we are just opening ourselves up to a different kind of strength:
To the raw eroticism of gentleness.
To patience, gentleness, emotional intelligence, a watchful heart.
To the erotic power of a man who is present, gentle, and conscious. And yes, this also shows up in sex. Because a woman's body can only experience limited pleasure through pure roughness. To reach deeper, more ecstatic states, she needs a partner who: Is slow
Is gentle
Is tender
Is patient
Is secure
And completely present There are deeper levels of pleasure that can only be reached when a man can maintain the balance between gentleness and strength. When he can pendulate.
Between penetration and surrender.
Between clarity and tenderness.
That's the art.
And it's honestly the most masculine thing I can imagine. ~ Joe Turan