There’s a significant difference between a heart-to-heart conversation, and a projection-to-projection conversation. When we speak to and from the heart, we stand a real chance of making relational progress.
Our vulnerabilities are exposed and embraced, and our true feelings rise into view. When we speak from our projections- of self, of other- we are more likely to make things worse. Because projected dynamics are rooted in assumption and misinterpretation. And when we speak from that place, new projections are birthed. Projection begets projection. Vulnerability begets vulnerability. So, if you are planning to have a meaningful conversation with a significant other, spend some time beforehand doing all that you can to see through the veils to what is real. The real you, the real them, the real issues between you. And then connect from that place. Speak from your heart, hear with your heart, inquire from your heart. It may feel scary, but miracles happen when two souls meet on a bridge between their hearts.
- Jeff Brown
- Jeff Brown
