THE SECRET TO GREAT SEX

But are you willing to invest in her to get all that? Hold up, hold up! Before you start thinking investing in her has anything to do with money, you are wrong. Investing in her, means investing into her emotions, her heart. You see, the key to a woman's sexual treasure is to connect with her emotionally. A lot of husbands think that just because she is the wife, sex is a guarantee. But when you hurt her emotions or neglect her emotions, you are ruining great sex for yourself. Women equate sexual intimacy to emotional intimacy; in fact, some value emotional intimacy more than sexual intimacy. When you take care of your woman's emotions, it is almost automatic that she will release herself to you sexually and even be the one jumping on you to have sex. Women who feel loved emotionally tend to be very horny and sexually assertive. How do you attend to her emotions? Check how her day has been, pay attention to her feelings, don't belittle what she goes through, compliment her physical beauty but also her inner beauty, be faithful but also don't do things that make her suspect you are cheating, talk to her in a courteous and respectfully manner, find out about her dreams and fears, have intimate conversations with her, don't make her feel lonely, don't ignore her the whole day, make her feel special through your words and deeds, talk to her as someone important not casually or a sex object, apologize to her when you wrong her, you may not be perfect but show her you are working on treating her better, touch her even when sex is not the agenda, make her laugh, involve her in your life and decisions, appreciate her for all she does for you and the children... all these do not require money. When you sow this emotional intimacy with her, what you will reap is the greatest sex in your marriage. Your emotional care is the greatest aphrodisiac, it makes her wetter than Lake Victoria and adds the intensity to her orgasms. - Darryle Holloway-Hughes